Dear unsated self,

I’d like to introduce you to Some. Some is better than None. Some is even sometimes better than All, because it may mean moderation. It may mean not exhausted, not tapped out, not 0 to 60, not over-caffeinated, not unrealistic, frustrated & whining.

Some is your friend. Some is the real world. Some can be cause for celebration in some contexts. Some is the down-to-earth, working class, worn but comfy couch of the sanctuaried mind. Some laughs with you.

Embrace the Some. Invite Some in, try it on like a new-to-you fleece vest. Close your eyes. There. Some wants you to remember the journey. Memento vivere. Some is the truest legacy.

To Do

Hey there, just going over the status of my to do list for the holiday break; let’s see now:

  • watch a chucklehead try to simultaneouly smoke and sled with his nieces – check!
  • make delicious eggless banana bread (thank you allergy mama Kelly Rudnicki…) – check!
  • fold 77 loads of laundry – check!
  • catch up on 8 months’ worth of bill filing – check!
  • annual grouse to spouse about how lame of a holiday new year’s eve is – project was started but needs some additional attention
  • go iceskating, take a digger – check!
  • glare at the xmas tree from 12/26 on, in the hope that it will sheepishly climb the 2 flights to the attic and put itself away – check!

lookin good!

Book Review: “Born to be Awkward”, by Mike Bender and Doug Chernack
Published by: Three Rivers Press

I really wanted to love this book, as I have followed the “Awkward” site and get the RSS feed and find many laugh out loud moments. There were a few of those in this book, but overall it didn’t feel like the selections were that funny to me. (It’s so humor to say whether something is “funny”, really, b/c that is so subjective!!)

I’m less of a fan of the “meaner” pics – one just making fun of the way a baby looks, for example – I much prefer ones that capture a funny moment rather than just poke fun at appearance. But that’s my take, the book may very well find a prized place on your coffee table.

Disclosure: I received this book in exchange for an honest review from the Blogging for Books program.


So yeah, there’s some seasonal issues that happen for me in fall. It’s pretty delightful, just ask my family.  This week I commenced the traditional announcing of the things I deem stupid, which currently are: discussions of the internet of things, hipsters, and “life”.  Oh, and FitBits – probably because I’m not “fit” and it’s a(n immature) way of handling my jealousy of the fit.

Me:FITbits.” (snort)  “You know what I’M gonna invent? FatBats.”

Him: “FatBats??”

Me: “Yup. When I reach for another cookie, someone grabs a FatBatTM and conks me over the head with it.”

Will I ever stop reading “AI” (aka artificial intelligence) as “Al” (some guy named Al)?  It gets me every time!  I start reading an article and become so puzzled at headlines like:

“16 reasons why top researchers are obsessed with AI”, or

“AI ‘just an ordinary part of our lives,’ already optimizing business operations, says researcher”, or

“Mattel is already launching the ultimate AI for your child”

Who is this Al character?, I wonder each time.  Inevitably, the article will spell out the acronym and I will realize once again I thought I was reading about Al, the one-name phenomenon (a la “Oprah” or “Cher”).  You’d think since this keeps happening I would not be taken in the next time, but, nope. This morning I was puzzling over an RSS feed topic, “Al and Learning.”  Who’s Al?, I wondered.  The new Secretary of Education?

Ugh.  Hopefully they are building machines to learn from experiences better than I do!

I don’t think I have an especially difficult time with handling rejection. I think I see the whole thing somewhat like the Donald Kaufman character in my favorite scene of “Adaptation”:


Charlie Kaufman: There was this time in high school. I was watching you out the library window. You were talking to Sarah Marsh.

Donald Kaufman: Oh, God. I was so in love with her.

Charlie Kaufman: I know. And you were flirting with her. And she was being really sweet to you.

Donald Kaufman: I remember that.

Charlie Kaufman: Then, when you walked away, she started making fun of you with Kim Canetti. And it was like they were laughing at *me*. You didn’t know at all. You seemed so happy.

Donald Kaufman: I knew. I heard them.

Charlie Kaufman: How come you looked so happy?

Donald Kaufman: I loved Sarah, Charles. It was mine, that love. I owned it. Even Sarah didn’t have the right to take it away. I can love whoever I want.

Charlie Kaufman: But she thought you were pathetic.

Donald Kaufman: That was her business, not mine. You are what you love, not what loves you. That’s what I decided a long time ago.

However, the fact that facing rejection isn’t a difficult challenge for me didn’t keep me from enjoying Jiang’s story and tips, in “Rejection Proof“.  I liked it.  I think the gift he gives to others is helping them to be more comfortable speaking openly about being rejected, about fearing rejection, the universality of it all. He has a refreshingly strong altruistic streak motivating his exploration of the topic – not just ways to forward his own entrepreneurial success. I also enjoyed his sense of humor very much!

I was glad that he referenced the Rejection Therapy Game by Jason Comely – http://rejectiontherapy.com/. Although Jiang puts his own spin on it, I feel like this movement, if you can call it that, started before Jiang, and with Comely.

Frankly, what I have the hardest time with is saying no to others – providing rejection. And I found his suggestions related to that very helpful – for example, if you say, “No, but I know someone who would be interested,” or, “No, I can’t right now but I might be able to fit it in come springtime,” you are giving the other person valuable data and your no in some ways is a pseudo-yes. I liked his take on this and it will help me to feel less guilty when I have to do the rejecting.

Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book for free from the Blogging for Books program in return for an honest online review.

fine print

I haven’t read a full instructional pamphlet that comes with medication in a long time. I recently filled a new prescription so I thought, hey, I should read thru it, I’d like to know what to look out for.

The pamphlet listed the following serious side effects that may occur:

  • spontaneous nose-hair combustion
  • overwhelming urge to read all of James Patterson’s novels
  • drinking from the toilet
  • intermittent inability to say words beginning with “M”
  • singing in Esperanto while asleep
  • restless eyebrow syndrome
  • ferret collecting
  • winking at authority figures
  • sudden softening of teeth
  • line dancing
  • speaking only in haiku
  • the emission of wet-dog smell

I’d be a lot more concerned if I wasn’t already dealing with several of these in my day to day life. The irony is, I’m taking the medicine to help my RES (restless eyebrow syndrome)! Go figure!


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